new project: the moment you found out

"Our generations rise and break like foam on shores. Yet death, at least in the West, apparently astonishes us and blindsides every man-bubble of us, every time." -- Annie Dillard, For the Time Being


Recently, I started wondering about how people remember loss. What was that specific moment like when you heard about the death of someone close to you? What details do you hold onto still? Sensations, actions?

People we love die. These events change us; and the moment we find out, whether expected or not, can brand us. But the stories, the “where were you” stories, often never get told again. We rarely get a chance to talk about the death of someone we love. It's not a subject people bring up or pursue, even among close friends, even among family.

I am doing a documentary project on understanding how people remember these specific moments of loss. If you have a story to tell, please consider sharing it as a part of this project. We'll do a conversational interview and I'll also be photographing while you recount your story.

Please send me an email if you would like to take part in this project.